entanglement of all sorts

Got this from an email. It doesn’t state who wrote it. Anyway, enjoy reading the hardcore truth.

1. MR. THUG LIFE

Advantages
a. Real good at making love
b. Fun and exciting
c. Makes you laugh
d. Has your back, will fight and protect you

Disadvantages
a. Usually drinks and smokes too much
b. Always got drama
c. Stays a thug forever
d. In and out of jail

2. MR. NAW, I DON`T HAVE A GIRL

Advantages
a. Will take you out in the beginning
b. Will introduce you to all his friends
c. Compliments you all the time

Disadvantages
a. Has a girlfriend who he`s been with since the 2nd grade
b. Will not get rid of her
c. He tells you about her after you`ve fallen in love with his*bleep*

3. MR. BIG BALLA

Advantages
a. Will give you money with no questions asked
b. Has alot of style to him
c. Will show you some of the nice things in life

Disadvantages
a. Never returns your pages
b. Feels he can come to your house at any given time without calling first
c. Loves to be around his boys more than you.

4. MR. I`M IN THE INDUSTRY

Advantages
a. Can get you and your friends on the guest list at all the jumpin parties
b. Can have a decent stimulating conversation
c. Tends to dress nice

Disadvantages
a. You don`t know if he`s gay, straight or bi
b. Seems flighty when you speak of a solid commitment
c. You still have to wait in line to get in all the jumpin parties, then there`s drama at the door
d. All he has is a bunch of pictures with celebrities but he doesn`t know any of them personally

5. MR. INTELLECTUAL

Advantages
a. Book smart
b. Cares about how you feel
c. Has a very good job

Disadvantages
a. Boring as hell
b. Doesn`t know what the hell he`s doin in bed
c. He is not street smart
d. Always asking you when can he see you again

6. MR. GHETTO

Advantages
a. THE BOMB IN BED!!!!!
b. Makes you laugh
c. Got mad style and flava
d. Has a temper, but generally a charming sweet guy
e. Says he want a real relationship

Disadvantages
a. He got 3 or more baby mommy`s
b. Wants to lay up in your crib, use the phone, and eat up all the food
c. Is in denial when you tell him about himself
d. Comes home at 3:00 am and says he was out with his boys

7. MR. I`M A RIGHTEOUS BLACK MAN

Advantages
a. Will teach you about black history
b. Revolutionary
c. Inspiring & gives to you spiritually &emotionally
d. Wants a wife and family

Disadvantages
a. Breaks up with you for a white girl
b. Mo money-doesn`t have a job
c.Doesn`t own a nice suit, always wearing camouflage and sweats
d. In the end, you find out he is just a trifling, con motha*bleep*

8. MR. TOO DAMN GOOD

Advantages
a. Will introduce you to his mother
b. Has a job and will take you out
c. Will give you money for your bills if you need it
d. Sometimes he goes to church on Sunday

Disadvantages
a. Sometimes he goes or church on Sunday
b. Secretly wants to be Mr. Thug Life
c. Wears fake Movado &Rolex watches when he goes to the club
d. Ignores you when the game is on because he takes sports too serious-He didn`t make it professionally
e.You find out after you break up with him that he was cheating on you

9. MR. PLAYA

Advantages
a. Will tell you the truth - that you`re not the only one
b. Sometimes he`s fairly decent in bed
c. He tells you that you`ve changed him and he`s ready to settle down
d. Has his own apartment and car (invites you to move in with him)

Disadvantages
a. He doesn`t acknowledge you in public, especially if there`s women around
b. Generally he is a punk (won`t stand up for anything)
c. He expects you to believe all his lies just because he told you the truth about other women
d. After you catch his lyin` *bleep*, he tells you that he told you that he was a playa in the beginning anyway

10. MR. I HAVE A JOB

Advantages
a. Of course…. he has a job
b. Doesn`t have too many bad habits
c. Will take care of you when you`re sick
d. Tells you that he is in love with you

Disadvantages
a. You stay in the relationship 2 years or more and then find out he`s
a shiftless, lazy son-of-a-*bleep* who wants you to do all the wifely
duties but won`t give you a ring.
b. He ends up telling you that he loves you, but is not "in love" with you
c. After he leaves you he gets married a month later

11. MR. BEST FRIEND

Advantages
a. He`s your best friend, you tell each other everything; you get along very, very well
b. He gives you advice when you and your man are having problems
c. The ultimate gentleman
d. Sweet and caring with a good sense of humor

Disadvantages
a. You end up hooking up with him only to find he ain`t about *bleep* either!
b. Now, you gotta find a new best friend because you can`t stand his *bleep*no more

12. MR. RIGHT

Advantages
a. He loves God and takes his relationship with God seriously
b. He is intellectual, brilliant, and capable of taking you there mentally and emotionally
c. He will love you even when you are not lovable
d. He has a career and not a job!
e. He acknowledges his faults and strives to be a better man
f. He understands a relationship is built on a 200% quota - 100% him and 100% you
g. He doesn`t have a bunch of kids and babies mommas - he`s smarter than that.
h. He is a true best friend and everything you ever wanted in a man
i. He was cute when you met him. But, after spending sometime you see he`s fine as hell!
j. He can dress - knows the difference b/t formal, semi-formal,
professional, business casual, casual, and since we are just chilling
let me throw on some sweats and a fitted hat
h. He loves his mother and respects women

Disadvantages
a. You`ve never met him and if you did he already has a girl/wife.

I’ve
met numbers 1-12. They’re my friends and some of their girls are my friends. But of course, I won’t talk about it. They’re my friends. They trust me with their
million stories concerning their  relationships and girlfriends. I keep the secrets of the guy and the secrets of the girl. I don’t share them to the other. I just listen and keep. That’s just my work. Oh, plus, comfort them when they feel bad. I just
hope that someday, someday, these guys will settle down after fooling around.
Settle down and respect women, that is.

Ano?
I’m still looking forward to your stories, complaints, frustrations,
escapades, sex life, etc. Over a cup of coffee and hot chocolate for
me? Updates, mga tsong!

Someone asked me to post an entry on my take in relationships. I’m not a good writer. Lots of grammatical errors. Sentiments aren’t accurately stated. I’m better off talking to persons than writing ideas. But for you, I’ll try to make something.

I’m not a cynical person. I’m not pessimistic. But I’m not overly hopeful. I’m just between always hoping that everything will turn out well and always knowing that everything will not work out no matter how hard you try.

Relationship. If there’s something that I always value, it is a relationship. Friendship, love relationship, professional relationship. Whatever relationship. It is that connection with people that had always gotten my utmost attention. It has received all my efforts and sacrifices. I don’t know but I have always, always found myself doing everything to keep ties, if not keep them so close.

I don’t have any idea what that person wanted me to write here regarding relationships. I’m not sure if I’m doing this right. Perhaps, I’ll just end this by sharing the lessons I learned that I can remember at this moment.

1) Taking care of a person is not just taking care of the person on your terms. It also entails knowing what care that person requires.

2) Open communication is the most important ingredient to keep a relationship.

3) Almost all of the persons I met told me that “sublimation**” is not good. It is not right. It is not healthy for a person. “When you’re angry, express your anger to the person.” I disagree with this idea. When we are angry, we should not talk to the person. We should spend time alone, “processing” everything. Why are we mad at that person? What may be the reason of the person in doing what we hate? Is it right for me to get mad at that person? There are a lot of questions to help us “process everything”. When we are clarified with our conflicts, we can talk to the person. Say things in a modulated voice. Express our self clearly and accurately since we already processed everything with ourselves. We should always remember to use the “I word” in talking to a person. I forgot to say that we could only talk to the person when he or she is ready to talk and listen in a peaceful manner.

4) The ability to talk effectively and listen actively is a very important requirement in applying for an entrance to a relationship.

5) We should know when to work on a relationship and when to give up working on it.

6) There is a difference between an “I miss you” and an “I love you” coming from an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend. I have always observed this in couples getting back together. When we miss the way we were when we had a relationship with a certain person, it doesn’t necessarily follow that we STILL love that person. Longing is very much different from loving.

7) Nowadays, loving is overestimated and underestimated.

Men never change consistently for a woman throughout their entire lifetime. If they changed, they would always go back to their old selves some time in their lifetime.

9) Women cannot make a man love them if the man does not want to, even if they have sex with him.

10) In choosing a lifetime partner, look at the core of the person and his/her parent of the same sex. Not at the way you feel when you’re with that person. Not at his/her characteristics. Not at his/her physical attributes. These things change. The core of the person does not. The transmitted values from his/her parents cannot be changed. Recent studies can prove that.

I have lots to share but those are the only things that I can remember now. I’m not a relationship expert even though I have 126 EQ. That does not prove anything. I don’t give the exact advices that anyone of you need but I can always listen to you and we can always work together in processing everything. I’m always willing to learn more about relationships and to share what I know about that.

**Sublimation is the channeling of impulses or energies regarded as unacceptable toward activities regarded as more socially acceptable, often creative activities.