Archive for May, 2007

Gone

Tuesday, May 29th, 2007

I’m afraid of this. I knew it was coming but I didn’t know it would be this worst. I’m turning into a monster. A monster to him. I’m trying to get back the feelings I had before but they seem to move away with great conviction. I don’t feel anything for him anymore. Gone were the days wherein I care for him tremendously. Gone were the days wherein I love him so much. Gone. Was that what I really wanted? To let go and move on? Yes, it was what I wanted. It was what I worked hard on. But I don’t want to be this cold to him. To be this harsh. This is really scary but I know what to do and I’ll start it soon. I’ll sail away. Away from him.

Song playing: Trying to Get Back That Feeling Again
Next song: Nakapagtataka

Tag

Friday, May 25th, 2007

So here’s how the tagging game is played.

First, link back to the person who tagged you. Say for instance, "My friend Dundee tagged me!" Then proceed by linking as well the person who tagged the person who tagged you. "My friend Dundee was tagged by the AnitoKid."

Secondly, to make life exciting and because people are always almost interested in the philosophical why, list five reasons as to why you blog. Take the following examples.

1. I blog because I love writing. I usually carry a small notebook with me wherever I go and I write everything that comes to mind. However, when I started to spend almost all my time in front of the computer, I typed everything that comes to mind. So there. Blogging.

2. I blog because 23 persons told me to write a book. ¾ of those told me to write a book about my lovelife. That explains the recurring theme of my blog entries-love. I’m not into writing a book now but I might be in the future. Bits and pieces of blog entries might help me to do the request of those persons.

3. I blog to learn and unlearn. To be enlightened and to shed light.

4. I blog to update friends who keeps on asking how I am, especially those who are staying outside the Philippines.

5. I blog to keep track of my thoughts, myself.

Then last step, tag another five bloggers then comment on their posts to let them know you tagged them.

journal entries are well-written hypocrisies and pretensions

***I really don’t read blogs but I will now. hehe..

If MM Were The Answer, What Would Be The Question?

Thursday, May 24th, 2007

I was in Starbucks-Corinthian when I received a text…

If the answer were *your name*, what would be the question?

I usually don’t forward texts such as this but since I wasn’t in the mood to read about behavior analysis, I forwarded it and below were their questions. Read on.

>Sino ang perfect girl sa mata ni *his name*?

C: exaggeration! Hindi ako perpekto sa mata ko. LOL

>Sinong valedictorian ng batch 2004-2004 ng HSAB?

C: okay.

>*name*?

C: Nakakashock na pangalan lang ni *name* ang tanong at sagot ang pangalan ko. Association ba ito o nagfifish ka? Ahahah!

>Sino ang pinakasweet?

C: MnM’s kasi kaya sweet. Corny!

>Who you?

C: Natawa talaga ako dito! Oo nga naman. ;p

>Sinong mahal ko?

C: Ah… Eh… no comment. ;p

>Who among my dearest friends deeply believe in love?

C: May tama ka!

>Who believes in *name*?

C: Hmmmm… hindi na. Pero sige, baka….

>Sino ang bagong gupit?

C: Yeah right! Idagdag mo na din na bagong kulay (balat at buhok). Hahaha!

>Ano ang nickname ni Ma. Teresa?

C: Pwede na rin.

>Sino ang nagtetext sa kalagitnaan ng gabi, tinatanong kung sino pa ang gising, naghahanap ng katext, at may babasahing four chapters? Hehehe… Pwede na rin. Hehehe… Pero meron pang isa: Sino ang mga talagang pinagkakatiwalaan ni *his name*?

C: Hahaha! Ganoon talaga ako kapag inaantok, naghahanap ng katext para magising. Thanks for the trust! Muwah! Walk and talk tayo ulit. Namiss ko iyon!

>Who would you be glad to spend a lifetime of friendship with?

C: Awwww… Thanks! *hug*

>Sino ang mommy mo?

C: Tama nga naman!

>Who loves you dearly?

C: Natahimik ako.

>Who is the last person whom you’d gonna say good night?

C: You always do and thank you!

I’ll add the others next time! =)

Summer Class is Over

Thursday, May 24th, 2007

…but the words of Dr. David will always stay in my notebook. Uh, in my heart. *wink, wink*

“Life has no meaning unless you put meaning to it.”

“Usually, common sense is not common.”

“Love is a procreative, positive, constructive feeling that arrests the mind in whatever is beautiful in the universe that connects the mind of the lover with the mind of the object of love.”

“Love is a terrible gamble. It is superstitious.”

“I don’t know why they like orgasm. It just exhausts….”

“Life is a delicate balance of homeostasis. A tilt compromises existence. It maybe death.”

“Kapag bata ka (referring to the youth-adolescence), neurotic. Almost paranoid.”

“Science is a complementary action of observation and reasoning.”

“Way of environment is measured in how many is helped in this world.”

“If the knowledge becomes you, then that is true knowledge.”

“Madaling mawili sa buhay because we are lovers of pleasure and avoiders of pain.”

“Excessive orgasm exhausts you up like a desiccated coconut.”

“Future is a pigment of one’s mind that will take place if created.” Dr. David told the class that we, ourselves, create the “bail of darkness”.

“Rule of the universe=impermanence.”

“You snatch your wife from her security-giving parents. Give her the best possible security.”

“Kahit ikinasal ka ng ilang beses, that’s still legitimate prostitution.”

“Don’t marry a selfish person. He will not be able to provide for your offspring.”

“Men are men. Rats are rats. Although some men are rats. Some are even worse.”

“You can titillate yourself.” Dr. David tickled himself. He was telling the class that it is better to entertain yourself than “use other people” to do that.

“A pupil is taught to read words. You are taught to read between the words.”

“With consciousness, one can will a behavior.”

“May nangyayari na ‘di talaga pumapasok sa sariling kamalayan.”

“When life is difficult and events are out of control, people tend to be more religious.”

“Kakapit ang tao sa patalim kapag siya ay nahulog.”

“Don’t put your God into test. He may not listen.” He was talking about people who believe that God is all-powerful. People pray to him (asking for things they want for themselves) because they “test” the ability of God.

“Bakit may oblation? To smooth out. To balance the impact of religious education in the Philippines.”

“Sad to say that people would marry late because they spend a long time preparing for their future and learning to be humans. And THAT (learning…) takes time.”

“I’m a small man but I’m entitled to arrogance. I don’t want to be buried in a place wherein people I don’t like are buried.”

“Iyong iba, makita mo lang iyong puwet parang dalawang palanggana.” He was referring to his classmates in the States.

“Chauvinism usually starts at home.”

“Beauty decays. Ugliness does not.”

“I would rather be with anyone in the world than a selfish person whether it’s a she or he.”

“Do not expect from others what you can’t give them. It just generates frustration.”

“The more intricate, the more intelligent, the more intent, the more grave.”

“Man is vain.”

“Ang matalino kadalasan ay malibog.”

“Control the demon inside. Rein it.”

“Beating. Violence. Guilt. In retribution to buy gifts for the wife.”

“Women are revolting. They are the beaten half of the species.”

“Pagtatakpan ang problema, problema pa rin. It’s just a good face, an upbringing.” He was referring to high-end families that have problems and cover it up.

“Remove the mask and you’re still a monster. An animal within is still an animal.”

“We play with rules. It’s a game.”

“Some women are like that. They produce bounty but they also bring floods, volcanic eruptions.”

“Life is just a peculiar integration of proteins and so on.”

"Kung palamuti lang, hindi nagtatagal.”

“The completion of the definition of life is death.”

“Nobody loves the poor. A leader should uplift the poor because he doesn’t want to go down to their level.”

“Philosophy professors=dominant baboons.”

“Males are chauvinistic.”

“Psychorepresentation of the thumb in the brain is growing because of excessive texting.”

“Most women today do what they hate in guys. Inom. Sigarilyo. Not good.”

“Great men are educated and they are passionate about it.”

“Orgasm is a momentary intense pleasure.”

“Man is a hedonist at heart.”

“Learning is an expansion of consciousness.”

“Bakit? Itanong mo sa Diyos!” My seatmate asked Dr. David why a surgeon died while operating. Dr. David answered him in a sarcastic way.

“Hindi sa bakla ako pero gwapo siya.” He was referring to Bitterman.

“That’s the place everyone likes. Apathy.”

“The die is cast. You don’t run away from a problem. Avoidance is not a solution.”

And my favorite:
“I usually give an 8-hour exam. What is four hours?”

***Dr. David is already 70 years old but he’s still teaching because he believes that he’s still needed and he can still do the job. And I can attest to that, he’s really good! Interesting subject and a good professor. What more could you ask for? By the way, the subject’s Psych 140. It’s about behavior analysis and behavior modification (reinforcement, conditioning, punishment, avoidance, escape, habituation, sensitization). You’ll understand people more. Why they act as they do and what you can do about their behaviors. Interesting! =) But I warn you, the exam’s difficult. The essays should be at least five pages long and there are more or less 100 items of modified true or false and fill in the blanks (Daming blanks in one sentence. You’ll get lost.) But that’s the challenge. Grab it! You’ll learn a lot!

Stimulus Bombardment

Thursday, May 24th, 2007

After reading some of my blog entries, a friend told me…
“Nakamove on ka na? May ipapakilala ako sa’yo. Mabait iyon.”

After swimming, a friend told me…

“May high school classmate ako before. Hindi naman siya naghahanap. Gusto ko lang kayong magmeet. Parang magcliclick kayo eh.”

While reviewing at Starbucks, a friend told me…

“Wala kang boyfriend? Hmmmm… Ipapakilala ko sa’yo kaibigan ko. Bagay kaya kayo?”

While reviewing at Seattle’s Best Coffee, a friend exclaimed…
“Ano?! Ikaw walang boyfriend?! Oh?”

***I always wonder why it is a “need” to have a boyfriend. I don’t really care if I don’t have one.

Going Away

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

There are times when one has to go. Distance
herself from someone. It is not to have the so-called personal space because
she has loved the absence of it and the closeness she shared with that person.
One has to go because one has to let the other person breathe. Move freely.

By the way, remember the one I told you before? That time when you first kissed me? If you do remember, I just want to tell you, I STILL DO.

Yesterday

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

Someone living outside the country called me yesterday. We
talked for hours. It’s amazing to talk to a person you haven’t spoken to for a
year. You stood there and forgot who you were with. You just stood there with
amazement all over your face. You listened to that person. You listened and couldn’t
stop smiling to yourself. You kept on telling that you miss that person so
much.

 

You talk about yourselves. What happened. What you both
feel. Concerns. Everything. That person talked. You listened again. Suddenly,
you felt that invisible security blanket. You felt serene. Your conflicts
suddenly disappeared. Oh, how you missed that so much!

 

You talked. That person listened. You felt that you were
needed. That person missed your words. The words that give that person the same
effect that person has on you. You feel the mutuality.

 

You sat. It’s time to say goodbye.

 

You held your cell phone in your hands. You smiled while
tears fell down your face. You just smiled and let the tears fall. I did.
Yesterday, when my bestfriend (for 16 years) called. And believe me, I was the
happiest girl on earth.

Bliss

Thursday, May 17th, 2007

It’s true when they say that uncontained happiness comes next when you had experienced so much pain. That after the person you love so much has ignored you, the person who loves you so much suddenly exists in your world. It just takes two steps—refine your emotions with your thoughts and fuel your thoughts with your emotions. In other words, your emotions and thoughts are one.

Then, one day, you’ll just content yourself watching him sleep on your shoulder because of exhaustion. You gently wrap your arms around him and recognize that you can’t own a person. You brush the hair that has fallen over his eyes and recognize that you can’t force him to have a certain perspective in life. You kiss his forehead and recognize that caring also means understanding what kind of care he requires.

He wakes up, stares at you and says, “I love you.” You offer your gentlest smile, say I love you back and recognize that love means promoting your happiness and wellness AND your partner’s.

***For those who have a hard time moving on, you need to choose. To decide. You can’t stay there all your life. You owe yourself happiness. Give yourself that. Getting stuck took me years because my thoughts and emotions were at constant war. But once I did that, it took me less than a month to move on. It isn’t time that’s on your side, it is discipline. Control. Have that.

Spur-of-the-Moment

Monday, May 7th, 2007

It has been awhile since I last sat down infront of my pc and played with the keys, trying to type something or just clicked the mouse randomly, surfing the net. It is good to say that my addiction to typing short stories or out-of-the-blue reactions and net surfing has somehow died down a bit. Now, I feel the itch to write something again. I don’t know what I’m gonna talk about. I haven’t read anything that has evoked a superb reaction and I haven’t talked to someone who has stimulated my thoughts lately. It is so boring for me to write about “conditioning”, which is what I’m reading every now and then. It is much worse to talk about people’s lives since that were the recent topics I had with friends, who share their experiences and express their feelings. Pardon me for just writing anything that goes to mind…

***I received a text two days ago. I just had one reaction to that. I thought this would be better said in Filipino, so… “Aanhin ang papuri kung ang taong nagsabi ay sa’yo nandidiri.”

***Philippine politics is very depressing!

***It’s funny how a person tries to cling to something when s/he falls down. S/he rationalizes and justifies everything that s/he has done. S/he distorts reality by creating plots in mind and changing his/her motives to something that is more acceptable. S/he uses people in doing the unthinkable just to get even. S/he disregards his/her principles to satisfy his/her unreasonable, intense feelings. Don’t you just realize that it gets tiring to do all these things than just admit that you’re wrong or wronged and ask for forgiveness or forgive? Make life simple. Avoid complications. You owe yourself happiness. Give yourself that. Believe me, revenge is not happiness in the long run. [For friends]

***How many parents would open their minds understanding the culture of younger generation? This is the problem of the present generation now. They are reared by traditional parents, who were brought up through such parenting style, while they are exposed to a modern environment. This is one of the reasons children still become delinquents after their parents have given their supposed needs. They are being exposed to two different worlds. They encounter inconsistencies and they encounter those things without the aid of an open-minded and supportive adult. It is through this that parents are highly encouraged to reach out to their children and cover the gap. Provide them with consistency.

*** Ang puke ay isang “sagradong” parte ng katawan ng babae. Wala akong pakialam kung birhen ang isang babae o hindi. Hindi ko ikinukumpara ang dangal niya sa kakapiranggot na “hymen.” Ang sa akin lang, sana respetuhin ng mga babae ang kanilang sarili para respetuhin din sila ng mga lalake. Huwag naman sanang basta basta pinapasukan at linalabasan ang kanilang puke ng kung anu-anong klaseng titi.

Oo, nagbabago ang mundo, ang lipunan, ang kultura. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na sumunod tayo sa lahat ng pagbabago. Kaya nga may tinatawag na prinsipyo, mga pinaniniwalaan, pinanghahawakan at pinaninindigan. Dahil kung patuloy tayong susunod sa lahat ng galaw ng mundo, siguradong mawawala tayo at malulunod sa kaniyang malawakang pag-inog. Mag-isip ng kritikal. Piliin ng mabuti. Tumayo sa sariling paa. Manindigan. [An excerpt from a blog entry I wrote in my other blog account.]

DEATH

Wednesday, May 2nd, 2007

Just that.