I just can’t get over thinking of the idea of being in love with the thought of loving someone….
Pretty confusing, right? Well, it happens and when it happens one must learn to accept that notion and learn to let go of the things he really should let go of….
Love is a word that is hardly understood by many. People tend to associate it with certain words for it to have a clear-cut definition, but it just leads them to mystification. Furthermore, they are denied from what is rightfully theirs in cases when a friend defines love as this and that and/or when they read a book and it says this and that…and they claim that they share the same definition/s too.
First, finding one’s genuine identity, his true self is the only way that one can say that he loves a certain person. Loving is the giving and sharing of oneself. When one doesn’t know himself or he has a “peer/society identity” and he claims that he loves a certain person, it is the same as saying that somebody else, but him, loves that person. If that’s the case, then shame on that person!
Every person has different identity. Everybody is unique. No matter how many characteristics people have in common, there will always be certain trait/s that will distinguish them from one another. From there, it follows that everyone has his own way of defining love and expressing it.
Ever wonder why there are many definitions of love? It is because it came from various men and women who found themselves and felt comfortable with it. The original ways of showing and expressing love came from them. However, it seems that those ways aren’t original today as they seem to be in the past. They became traditional and plain ordinary strategies that some sensitive people felt that it has lost its true meaning and significance. In short, they were taken for granted.
Second, one can never love a person when he doesn’t know that person that well. The writer doesn’t believe in the saying, “Love doesn’t live by reasons.” That’s rubbish. That is too childish. One loves a person because there are reasons behind that feeling.
Biologically: First, the body is aware of a certain stimulus (it can be a beautiful and hot lady) through the senses. Second, the specific parts of the brain process the information gathered by our senses and trigger the different parts of the body to react including the hypothalamus, which has an important influence on emotions.
Philosophically: There is a reason for everything that happens around us, for everything we do, even for our existence.
Concluding from the statements above, the writer can say that there is really a reason behind loving and she further stated that people cannot have a “sensible and sound reason for loving” unless they really know the person they love thoroughly.
“How will we understand each other?” “How will we know that a certain person is expressing true love when we have different ways of showing it?” “Would it be better if we have a uniform way of expressing love?” Questions as these may pop in the readers’ minds and may even be thrown at the writer. However, she again poses a question in answer to these—definitely, I have my own way of expressing love, and others have theirs too but, why don’t we just “color” the earth with what we individually have?
*** I am a human being. There are some characteristics that make me different from the entire human race. This is my own opinion regarding love. Would you believe what I said and make it yours too, as what the other people usually do, or would you believe and start your own grand search?
